February 13, 2013

Celebrating the Everyday
{a welcome back to marriage & momyhood link up!}

*squeal!*  Welcome back, dear friends, to Marriage & Mommyhood!!!

Kayse and I are so excited to announce that the second session of Marriage & Mommyhood has begun.  This session, we’re diving deep into community, relationships, and a little book called Desperate.  I'm just tickled pink, because it’s by far my favorite book on motherhood and has absolutely changed my life.  You’re gonna love it.

Each week, our link up will focus on a line from the No More Desperate Moms Resolution:

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We’d love for you to join us each Wednesday, linking up your blog posts on the given topic, or anything that applies to marriage and/or mommyhood.

This week?

Celebrating in the "every day," that's where I struggle.  That's the place it's so easy for me to get lost in.  The mundane, never ending tasks of the day.  The laundry, washing dishes, changing diapers, cooking, educating, stopping arguments, trying to have a ready answer to point them to that which is good.  The days when it feels more like going through the motions rather than living.

Celebrating in the face of the days my children are having a difficult time, I struggle there too.  And honestly, when does a day happen when they don't?  I know I don't.  I sin every day.  I respond irrationally at some point every day.  Why am I surprised when they do too?  But it's when one of them is acting out of control, that I feel most out of control.   The days when ideals are long since departed.

Idealism is sometimes the picture or plan of what we think God is going to do and how He is going to do it in the grand scheme of life or in a specific circumstance, and sometimes it's simply how we think things at minimum must go in order for the day to be okay, a success, to cope.

Of course we all want things to go well.  There's nothing wrong with that.  Hope is good, very good.  We must cling to it.

Hebrews 10:23 (amp)

So let us seize and hold fast and retain without wavering the hope we cherish and confess and our acknowledgement of it, for He Who promised is reliable (sure) and faithful to His word.

And yet, there's more to idealism than just hope for something specific.  An ideal is a conception of something in its perfection.

"Idealism is dangerous to our hearts, because when things don’t work out the way that we think they should, it results in frustration and offense. If you find yourself frustrated or offended in life, you’ll probably also find idealism."  --Matt Peterson

In THOSE days, seeing the gifts aren't a natural response but a choice; hard eucharisteo.  (---tweet this)

Eucharisteo = Thanksgiving, Grace, Joy

When I do not choose to look for gifts, reasons to celebrate, the days burn me out and fog me up.  By the time my husband walks through the door, unexpectedly straight into it, I am usually not seeing our relationship rightly either.  Another ideal, a conception of something in its perfection, would be him coming in and immediately fixing everything.  And if he doesn't?  How easy is it to try to place blame, or "blame shift" away our frustration from ideals trampled onto someone else?

We must cling to hope, not ideals. (---tweet this)

Romans 5:3-5 (amplified)

Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance. And endurance (fortitude) develops maturity of character (approved faith and tried integrity). And character [of this sort] produces [the habit of] joyful and confident hope of eternal salvation. Such hope never disappoints or deludes or shames us, for God’s love has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit Who has been given to us.

I bless you today with eyes to see them -
  • the blessings in disguise
  • the beautiful, yet not always appearing so, strengths that need cultivating within your children
  • and the simplicity of grace that walks hand in hand with truth when correction is needed.
What are some ways that you struggle with celebrating each day with your wee babes as gifts from God?  What are some things that help you to be more intentional in this area? 

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  1. I love your return, and love this post. And your welcome in the sidebar reminds me who I am every time I read it. Your words bless my heart. Thank you!


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