When I think of what the Bible refers to as a "nagging wife," I don't automatically consider myself one. I tend to place a "nag" on the same plain as a terrible, horrible, no-good, ugly woman who never has anything but vermin escape her mouth in the form of words. Terrible mental image right? I, of course, prefer to think of myself in a more pleasant light when it comes to the way I interact with my husband. Surely, ladies, I do not nag.
While it's a very good thing that I have no trouble recognizing the ugliness of nagging, this week's focus really began my meditating on what a nag really is; by definition and from scripture.
First, let's look together at the definition of the word nag:
Let’s start with Nag, the noun:
- someone (especially a woman) who annoys people by constantly finding fault
- a person who is not pleasant or agreeable
And now Nag, the verb:
- To annoy by constant scolding, complaining, or urging
- To scold, complain, or find fault constantly
- To torment persistently, as with anxiety or pain
- To be a constant source of anxiety or annoyance
Ew... While I genuinely do not nag my husband anywhere close to "constantly" or "persistently," reading these definitions leads me to ponder how often (anywhere from a couple of times a week to a few times a day, depending on the surrounding circumstance) that I actually do exhibit said description. I found this disappointing, disheartening, and disturbing. Anyone else?
Now let's take a look at what the Word says:
It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman. Proverbs 21:19 (ESV) A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike. To restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one's right hand. Proverbs 27:15-16 (ESV) It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather] than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman. Proverbs 21:9 (AMP) An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 (ESV) An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:1, 12, 26 (AMP) A wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14b (AMP)
I desire to speak LIFE to my husband! To honor and appreciate him with my words and my TONE.
We are not promised tomorrow.
Do not boast of tomorrow, for you know not what a day may bring forth. Proverbs 27:1 (AMP)
Here are some scriptures that I found that from meditating on them have encouraged me to first think differently towards my husband, then subsequently speak to him differently:
Oil and perfume rejoice the heart; so does the sweetness of a friend’s counsel that comes from the heart. Proverbs 27:9 (AMP) Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:10 (NLT) Therefore be imitators of God [copy Him and follow His example], as well-beloved children [imitate their father]. And walk in love, [esteeming and delighting in one another] as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us, a slain offering and sacrifice to God [for you, so that it became] a sweet fragrance. Ephesians 5:1-2 (AMP) And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 (AMP)
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