Some comments and questions are polite and inquisitive, while others are not so much.
As "Raising Real Men" puts it:
"Too often, though, we hear the negative wisecracks from fellow Americans, and far too often, from our fellow Christians. We have a few 'snappy [with a smile]' comebacks of our own if someone is remarkably crude, but usually we are well able to answer with grace and cheerfulness. We defend our decision to have a large family and we especially express our happiness to be the parents of many..."
It really does amaze and grieve my heart how quick many people are to make public remarks in front of our children (and many times even in front of their own children) to announce how burdensome kids are.
"Children are an heritage of the Lord—these are His children, not ours. We don’t own them. If there are other children God wants in our family, we are open to them. And if we don’t have more children, I would rather have the peace of knowing it was because of God’s perfect plan for our family and not the result of our leaning unto our own understanding. I don’t want the burden of standing before God and learning that there were children meant to make an impact on this world, children that would’ve thrived in our specific home, but that we rejected them. As a Mama, I can’t imagine rejecting any of my children." -Sara Elizabeth from A Mama's Story
We do not, for a second, believe we have the ability to force our beliefs about children, family, or our faith in the Lord concerning the size of our family on others. Nor do we even desire to.
Are there many, many Truths from His word that we believe point to the blessings of not only having a large family, but simply about trusting in the Lord and not leaning to our own understanding? Yes. But it is not our place to make other people believe this too. And most importantly, only God Himself knows exactly His desires for you, your story, and your family dynamic.
One day our dining table may look similar to this. It may not. We feel peace concerning leaving that up to Him. :)
Our part is to grow in intimacy with Him, so as He speaks and leads our "ears" are more keen to His voice.
We are all growing though, aren't we?
It stands to reason then that while at some points in our lives we may very well believe that God is leading us to make a certain decision, that as we grow continually in Him and our ability to hear Him more clearly also grows, that we also find ourselves changing those decisions. Not because God's desires for us changed, but we did. We all make decisions differently as we mature. And we need to give ourselves grace to change them when the time comes.
Should you have read between the lines of the last paragraph and believe that I am saying that you'll realize you're supposed to have lots of kiddos as you mature, and that you must be immature currently if you don't believe that??? Absolutely not. 100%
It is Truth that only God knows His desires for your family dynamic. It is also Truth that we make decisions differently as we mature. Separate those two in your mind if that helps you read my heart more accurately. ;)
We all, no matter the subject, should hold our convictions loosely while we simultaneously hold onto the heart of God, white-knuckled with all our might.
And as we pursue Him we need to give ourselves the grace to allow for change.
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