How long have yall known each other?
8 years, 9 months, and 5 days
How did yall meet?
So there was this epic band called The Elms... (hmm...*thinking how to keep this short*) My little sister joined The Elms' web forum called The Buzzing, and met many new online friends, and quite a few we met *usually* unintentionally at their shows. Aaron, aka "chequeboynothome," dubbed her as his online little sister, and they talked often (with my critical eye) about life, family problems, and her relationship with Jesus. He became a source of laughter, fun, encouragement, Biblical advice, and a cyber shoulder to cry on.
We all met in person in Indianapolis on the day of one of The Elms' shows in Bluffton, Indiana - that Rachel Anna and I drove to from North Carolina, on May 9th, 2003 (the month I graduated from high school). I greeted him in that Fazoli's parking lot with a big southern, "Hiiii!" He told me that I "looked familiar," which was just a ploy to get me to remove my sunglasses so he could see my eyes. We met up with his best friend and then spent the rest of the day together.
When Aaron was 12 years old he believed it was not only important to pray for his future wife, but also even ask God for some specifics, partially because he wanted to recognize her, and also because he believed even at that age that if he asked God what His best for him was, that God would tell him. Aaron wrote a list. A list he felt God breathed to him, that had sprung up in his heart. And he prayed. He prayed for those things and believed heartily for them. In the next ten years, he never met a girl that fit all the things on his list, he rode a fence between faith and discouragement, but continued to believe for what he felt God had for him.Aaron's list:
- Blond hair
- Blue eyes
- Southern accent (Keep in mind that he lived in Indiana!)
- Plays the piano and/or guitar (So we can make music & lead worship together.)
- Sings (Refer to reason for #4)
- Completely sold out to Jesus (He knew he was called to full-time vocational Christian ministry, and knew his heart was to serve Jesus with his wife.)Within 12 hours of our meeting, Aaron and his best friend checked every single thing off of his list.
For me, simply put: I felt like I had come home.I never dated a boy, though got close a couple of times, and held high standards - not to be arrogant and bratty, but because I saw my friends wasting their hearts over and over and over with boys. I didn't just want to save my body for my future husband but also my heart. My "list" wasn't a literal list like Aaron's. I told God I trusted Him to know who was best for me more than I did, and asked for a hopeless romantic man that would write me poetry and a man after His heart that would honor and cherish me out of a heart that loved God more (because only then could he really love me with all fullness). :)
We got married 7 months and 4 days later.
How did he propose?
At a park. On a hill that overlooked the trees. Facing sunset. One knee. And this: "I don't have a ring, but I have this... *put my hand on his heart* ...and I offer it to you, forever; and I ask you for yours."
Where did yall get married? Big or small wedding?
Held at a convention center called 30 South Meridian in the center of downtown Indianapolis, Indiana on Saturday, December 13th, 2003.It was decorated for Christmas and people put their gifts under a tree.It snowed that day. People came. It was grand.
How long have yall been married?
8 years, 2 months, and 1 day. We have just barely begun our adventures together.
Do you have any nicknames yall call one another?
He calls me "Rebecca" and "Hey."I call him "Honey" the most, and sometimes "Sweetie."In his phone I am: "My Rebecca."In my phone he is: "Aaron My Love."
Name three things you love most about your honey.
- He makes me laugh, a lot; even when I don't think I want to.
- He's the gravity to my emotions.
- He's the wings to my faith.
Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy on V-Day or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals?
He always ventures more towards the deeply romantic. *prayer request answered ;)
Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl or pop a movie in and relax on the couch?
Considering we rarely get "away" for a date, those tend to feel more "special" to me, but I am both.
If you could do anything and go anywhere, what is something you'd like to do with him one day?
With children grown and for an entire month away, one word: FRANCE.
What are your plans for today (Valentine's Day)?
I thought we would be staying in for a chocolate strawberries, movie and cuddle on the couch kind of evening...but was surprised today with news of going out! (I do not know where, but I do know I'm instructed to dress up!) :)
Are you asking for anything this Valentine's Day?
More of his heart every year; a gift he has been faithful to give.
Give us one piece of advice on keeping a relationship strong and full of love.
We are both meant to be the earthly portrayal of the One to each other.
Give no seat in your home to strife. But if it happens to steal one for a moment, remember that YOU always have something that you can ask for forgiveness for (even if it's 99% the other's fault *wink*). Forgiveness brings down defense walls.
Choose to enjoy the pilgrimage of your story together.
Show us a picture of what love means to you.
In this photo I had just given birth to our third. I said, "I couldn't have done it without you." He said, "You weren't meant to."
I love you, my Aaron Jude. I'm so happy it's you. I remember choosing, and still do: every day to give you all of my heart. You are all that I prayed for and so, so much more that I didn't know I needed or even wanted, but God did. I bless His name for you, for us, for our story, and life. I'm yours.
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